If you EVER try to tell me your child is also high maintenance. My son is in a league of his own. Like there's regular babies, fussy babies, high maintenance babies, and then C. Getting his 4 month shots didn't help on Monday either. This week has been BRU-TAL. It's like a horrible flashback to the first month of his life. His naps are poopy, he's been fighting going to sleep at night when he used to crash out during his bottle and we wouldn't see him until at least 3:00 a.m. when he wanted his paci. Wednesday he had an entire 60 minute fuss-fest. And don't even get me started on our lunch date Tuesday at Chili's with another mom and her son who was completely content to just chill in his car seat throughout the entire meal. I would have loved to have been sitting in the booth across from us to see the calm, happiness coming from her side of the table and the mass chaos and destruction that was my side of the table. I swear we'll be banned from every restaurant in Springfield by the time he's 1. We had a similar episode at Olive Garden one day for lunch a couple weeks ago. Forget the terrible two's, we're experiencing the terrible 4 months. Ok, so you're still thinking "you're not alone my child was the exact same!" Let me continue to paint this picture for you:
-He has never liked his swing. This is the item that 98% of babies love. I think he fell asleep ONCE in it when he was like 2 days old. Since then, he rolls is eyes at that thing.
-He HAAATES the car. So save your "oh just stick him in the car and go for a drive to calm him down." This would actually have reverse effect. I dread car rides. B and I never get to ride up front together anymore. One of us has to be in the back doing magic tricks and jumping around to entertain the nugget.
-HE NEVER STOPS MOVING. I kid you not. At the previously mentioned Chili's lunch, the other mom's kid literally moved like twice and both times it was his eyes to stare down my son who was making it known to the entire restaurant we were there. He can't sit still, he can't just lay in his car seat for more than 5 minutes. And during those 5 minutes in the seat, his legs are doing some karate kicks. We went back to swaddling last night because he's so spastic. Pretty sure we have a little ADHD child in the making. I blame the diet cokes I drank while pregs.
The ONLY sure thing I have found to instantly calm him these days is to walk outside. Yes, I've even set up a bag chair in the front lawn so we can watch cars and trees. Judge me all you want, I don't even care at this point. So while it's like 150 degrees and every other human is enjoying some nice refreshing AC, you can find us doing laps around the block while sweating off my muffin top.
I love my son, I really do. Fussy butt and all. But hear me and hear me well: God will need to give some CONCRETE PROMISES that if we're supposed to have another child, it will NOT be high maintenance x12. I don't want C to be an only child, but I can tell you straight up I will not go through this again in addition to having a toddler. And if I do go through this again, C will need to be like 15 so I can punish him and make him take care of his sibling. I shudder at the thought of what our "terrible two's" will look like....I need to go get my wine.
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This probably wont comfort you at all, but my parents tell me every day how I was that way as an infant. I did not sleep more than 2 hours at a time (even at night) until I started walking at 6 months. So maybe he'll be the same way, he's just bored easily and needs you to constantly be moving him around. Once he's able to move around on his own hopefully he will calm down.
C is just really pissed right now because Daddy dropped the ball and he's missing his date with HL. It's written all over his face. He's all like what now Dad. I'll wake up at 3 am. Watch me!
for what it's worth, reed is either moving or sleeping also. don't worry, as C gets older and can play with you more it will be much more fun. he just has an active personality!
You just described my daughter. She is 5 mos old and everything your "C" does she does. We rarely if ever get to enjoy a sit down meal at a restaurant, she hates the swing (we got rid of it), and the only thing we can do is hang out on the porch watching the cars drive by. I'm glad I'm not alone, so if there is any comfort in the fact you aren't alone, take it. Hope things get better.
A friend told me to check out your blog because she said you were a young mom and it was funny, but all I have to say is really? You should be counting your blessings God gave you a child. There are many out there that would love to be in your position right now high maintenance or not.
Amy- you make me laugh with your posts! I'm sure every momma has those days! (Of course, some babies will be more fussy than others... no judging here! I've dealt with many babies working in early childhood!) Don't get down on yourself as a mother! You're doing all you can! And if going on a walk is what works... then that's awesome! =) He is so cute too! Hopefully once he's able to move around on his own and communicate to you through his words, the fussiness will die down! Hold in there friend! =)
I just wanted to comment on what "anonymous" said. I've been following your blog, and I am secretly giddy when I see there's a new one! You are so funny and honest, and it's high time moms are painfully raw about how hard it truly is to be a sahm. I love how your mood changes and whatever you blog, that's the mood you were in that moment. Anonymous should read some past blogs and quit being judgmental. Yeah, I said it!
Wow....anonymous. That's pretty extreme if I do say so myself. I love what you write Amy! It's hard to believe that there is somenone out there that doesn't. Regardless, please don't change. Hopefully those that feel differently will just stop reading. You're so funny (And an obvious thankful mother)!!!
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